Solution or Comfort

Say a friend came crying to you, and the first words to come out of your mouth are “What happened?” Well, you my friend, are a horrible person. No offense and hopefully none taken.

We human beings, very often, want to show the best sides of ourselves without showing any of our vulnerability to others. So when that happens, you do everything in your power to make them feel protected. Hug them as tight as possible, even when it’s not your thing. Always trade lesser value for a greater one. Tell them it’s okay and that you’re there for them at any cost. Reassure how much you care and adore them. You’ll never know where it leads. Because it’s just an open gateway for living without any guarantees within the context of existence. Beyond this is the unknown adventure we fill with our own creativity. Remember that change is brought by some force, an impact they call it. This impact could end up in good or bad, like a cause and effect equation. Therefore we are in a constant state of transition, emerging, evolving, and becoming, in response to conflicts and tensions in our lives, of real experiences that make us happy, and those that knock us down. Life is about learning to live with others and learning how to act and behave in front of them. This does not mean changing who we are, but it means learning to communicate in different circles in order to get the best outcome.

Between solutions and comfort. Always comfort first. C comes before S in the alphabet. It was meant to be this way. Because it is then you assess the situations with a clear mind and an empathetic approach as everyone has their own stories and wants their own ending. It is then they see you as an open-minded person, and will feel safe to come to you without judgement, but with wisdom and understanding. When they see your mindfulness to be as kind as possible, they’ll come to acknowledge that you will extend your best without any ulterior motives. It’s not necessary to understand the what to feel the extent of their pain presented right before your eyes. Without tolerance and harmony the lasting peace of relationships cannot be maintained, and loyalty for each other cannot be established. When people fail in their arguments they become intolerant, then it’s the use of force and aggression to support their point of view. It is a rare opportunity, truly; for someone to decide, you’re their person. Don’t throw it away. Perception creates bias as much as it creates understanding. It creates fear as much as it creates curiosity. Some instincts are curbed and some just are adapted.

Understand that solutions are problems of tomorrow. In your own life you want to look back with contentment that you have done everything you can. Live to know it was your shoulders they chose to cry on that day.